Why are we dealing with repeated attacks on blackness? Why are people all over this country suddenly making the most mundane, routine, ordinary of things a crime for black people? As I contemplate these questions wondering more and more, what's going on? I go back to my Bible and realize that this world will become more and more out of control, deceitful, dangerous, greedy, lecherous, selfish and murderous!!! As a person of color, I'm extremely concerned about the random acts of violence that seem to perpetuate our community. Whether committed by the police, other members of the community or whomever, it is alarmingly clear that black lives matter less and less within and outside of our community. Hundreds of years of slavery, Jim Crow laws, and attitudes have managed to convince the world at large including other people of color that black lives are worthless or at the very least worth less!!!
Having been born during the civil rights movement, I am fortunate that I had more options than my parents, grandparents and great grandparents. All of whom helped build this country into the powerhouse it is now. I am grateful for all who came before me and whose shoulders I now stand on. I try to post as much positive information as possible on social media outlets about the black experience and the things we've achieved, contributed to and changed for the better. We must come to terms with our own history, it's uniqueness and it's impact on every facet of life around the world. We are survivors, innovators, creators and keepers of the universe. We are children of GOD and he loves us. We are the beginning and end of civilization. To understand just how important we are to this world, it's history, it's development and it's ability to survive, you must do your homework and discover if you don't know who we really are.
I hope for the sake of your soul, you undertake the determination to discover things you never knew or were not taught to you. Do not rely on the very limited, anemic and massively inaccurate portrayal of us, or lack of true history in the lessons we've been told. They aren't even close to the true, complete, glorious and magnificent truth about us. I want each of you to undertake your own journey and discover for yourself that you are indeed special and were always special. No other race of people have been treated as despicable and inhumanly as black people. The day will come when this will not be the case and their will be no more of our blood spilled. Many wrongly believe they will never answer for their crimes and sins. Nothing could be further from the truth. We will all stand before God one day for judgement!!!!
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Saturday, February 10, 2018
Aging
Let's face it, who wants to get old? We may not mind being older, but we don't want to be old. In this youth obsessed society we live in, it's hard to age. The constant pressure being applied to us to stay young is ridiculous. We are constantly bombarded with advertising that screams and equates sexiness with youth. This is especially true for women. It is hard to age, have careers, have aging parents who may be declining, be responsible for a household, accountable to a boss, mothering your children, being a daughter, sister, aunt, best friend and confidant and be a size 4 and sexy all the time. Why we hold this unrealistic standard to mirror ourselves is beyond me.
Many people who are moving through middle age to senior years are afraid whether they will admit it or not. Many are afraid they will not have enough to live on when they are retired. Many are afraid of losing their jobs and pensions before they are ready to retire. We hear horror story after horror story of how people are just a year or two away from retirement and they are terminated or downsized leaving them with very few options of maintaining the level of income they are used to. I know that age discrimination is against the law, but it happens all the time. I was told by a someone that age discrimination is the most practiced discrimination in this country. I'm not sure whether it's true or not, but I wouldn't be surprised if it were so. Trying to get another comparable job to what you're used to after a certain age is very difficult. Youth is preferred over experience most of the time. It doesn't matter how horrible a young person is at doing their job, they will always be preferred. The most common thing I hear is that they are more energetic and are more flexible because they don't yet have families. I think this is a lot of bull and the most likely the reason is you can pay them less and make them do more. They don't yet have a true understanding of their worth. In this day and age, people are living longer, taking better care of themselves and looking younger, so why do companies assumed an older person lacks energy and stamina. Besides, if you do your job right and not have to repeatedly correct things, you don't need as much energy and stamina. From where I'm standing, they don't seem to have all that much energy and stamina anyway as slow as some of them move. Companies would rather continue to apologize for their young staff, than hire older, more mature, more experienced workers. I'm not against hiring young people, some jobs do require youth and stamina to be done, but stop dismissing people over 40 and especially 50 as useless!!! Another misconception is that people over 50 are preparing to leave the workplace. Have you been paying attention to what's going on in this country the last 20 years? Housing markets crashed, pension funds were raided, financial fraud was rampant. Many people over 50 will have no choice but to work and stay in the work force long after they thought. They just simply do not have the means to retire let alone retire comfortably.
One of the most surprising things about this issue is that the people in the 40's - 50's age range are part of the problem. I've heard to many of them say so many times, I want someone young and energetic. It's so unfair and so presumptive. In essence, aren't we supposed to hire the best qualified person for the job? Unless the job requires a person to move non stop, why would you assume someone older can't do it. Let's get real a minute, most of these are corporate jobs, aka desk jobs. The amount of running around on a typical day at these jobs can usually be handled by someone over 50. Please stop acting like everyone over 50 is using a cane or a walker. Again let me point out how slow some of the younger folks move because they really don't want to be there!!! So what's the problem? Everyone wants to appear young and virile even if it's by default by who you surround yourself with. I know there are exceptions to this. I've heard of several companies who actively solicit older workers because they feel they have a better work ethic. On behalf of all the older people out there seeking work whether part-time or full-time, please don't be so dismissive of this set of workers as they have experience, commitment, dedication, skills, intelligence and most importantly the desire to be a part of the collective success of hard work. One thing I know for sure, when I retire, I will be done with the work force. I do not plan to be one of those people who retire, then find another career or job. I plan to expand my travels and fun times to the max!!!! No more work for me but for those who continue to want or need to work, they should be fairly considered like everyone else!!! It seems to me that retiring between 62-65 is becoming more a wish than a reality for many!!! I wouldn't be surprised if the average retirement age became 70-72. It seems like that's becoming more the reality!!!
Many people who are moving through middle age to senior years are afraid whether they will admit it or not. Many are afraid they will not have enough to live on when they are retired. Many are afraid of losing their jobs and pensions before they are ready to retire. We hear horror story after horror story of how people are just a year or two away from retirement and they are terminated or downsized leaving them with very few options of maintaining the level of income they are used to. I know that age discrimination is against the law, but it happens all the time. I was told by a someone that age discrimination is the most practiced discrimination in this country. I'm not sure whether it's true or not, but I wouldn't be surprised if it were so. Trying to get another comparable job to what you're used to after a certain age is very difficult. Youth is preferred over experience most of the time. It doesn't matter how horrible a young person is at doing their job, they will always be preferred. The most common thing I hear is that they are more energetic and are more flexible because they don't yet have families. I think this is a lot of bull and the most likely the reason is you can pay them less and make them do more. They don't yet have a true understanding of their worth. In this day and age, people are living longer, taking better care of themselves and looking younger, so why do companies assumed an older person lacks energy and stamina. Besides, if you do your job right and not have to repeatedly correct things, you don't need as much energy and stamina. From where I'm standing, they don't seem to have all that much energy and stamina anyway as slow as some of them move. Companies would rather continue to apologize for their young staff, than hire older, more mature, more experienced workers. I'm not against hiring young people, some jobs do require youth and stamina to be done, but stop dismissing people over 40 and especially 50 as useless!!! Another misconception is that people over 50 are preparing to leave the workplace. Have you been paying attention to what's going on in this country the last 20 years? Housing markets crashed, pension funds were raided, financial fraud was rampant. Many people over 50 will have no choice but to work and stay in the work force long after they thought. They just simply do not have the means to retire let alone retire comfortably.
One of the most surprising things about this issue is that the people in the 40's - 50's age range are part of the problem. I've heard to many of them say so many times, I want someone young and energetic. It's so unfair and so presumptive. In essence, aren't we supposed to hire the best qualified person for the job? Unless the job requires a person to move non stop, why would you assume someone older can't do it. Let's get real a minute, most of these are corporate jobs, aka desk jobs. The amount of running around on a typical day at these jobs can usually be handled by someone over 50. Please stop acting like everyone over 50 is using a cane or a walker. Again let me point out how slow some of the younger folks move because they really don't want to be there!!! So what's the problem? Everyone wants to appear young and virile even if it's by default by who you surround yourself with. I know there are exceptions to this. I've heard of several companies who actively solicit older workers because they feel they have a better work ethic. On behalf of all the older people out there seeking work whether part-time or full-time, please don't be so dismissive of this set of workers as they have experience, commitment, dedication, skills, intelligence and most importantly the desire to be a part of the collective success of hard work. One thing I know for sure, when I retire, I will be done with the work force. I do not plan to be one of those people who retire, then find another career or job. I plan to expand my travels and fun times to the max!!!! No more work for me but for those who continue to want or need to work, they should be fairly considered like everyone else!!! It seems to me that retiring between 62-65 is becoming more a wish than a reality for many!!! I wouldn't be surprised if the average retirement age became 70-72. It seems like that's becoming more the reality!!!
Thursday, January 18, 2018
Words
Don't use bad language. Say only what is good and helpful to those you
are talking to, and what will give them a blessing. Ephesians 4:29
Words are so important. They describe all in life. When people speak, they give us a glimpse of who they are, a look into their soul. We currently have a leader who can't speak the truth if even if he tried. His words are lies, they mean to inflict harm and poison the mind. His entire administration lies. We must diligently guard our hearts and minds to harmful words spoken to us as they will tear us down and burn out spirits if we let them.
Hateful and mean words are being used to beat others up with. So many seem to feel that it's okay to verbally assault their fellow man. We are warned that by our words we will be judged. Words give life and words destroy lives. In this era where we hide behind our computer screens and use false identities, the kid gloves have come off and folks are just saying what's in their hearts and have been on their minds. The delusion of entitlement had by some is just breathtaking. All men were created equal in the eyes of God. No man was created to serve another man. We were all created to serve God.
If you keep up with current events, then you know there is a #MeToo campaign underway where women are telling their stories of sexual assault by the men they have worked with or currently work with. I think that it's great that women are speaking out and standing up for themselves. My problem with this campaign is that it was hijacked by Hollywood stars who remained silent until their careers were well established. I'm sorry but you don't get to play shero when you remained silent when you could have been warning other women. These women chose to remain silent to cement their careers. Now they want to be looked upon as brave and heroic for finally speaking out. The women in this instance I respect are the ones who spoke out initially to the detriment of their careers. As far as I'm concerned they paid the price and sacrificed their careers to speak up. It didn't matter to them, the roles they lost, they spoke up. When you are not willing to sacrifice something important to you and tolerate loss, then you are not a trailblazer or hero. You're a silent participant. These women could have used their voices and spoke the words that would have warned others of the perils of the industry. WORDS MATTER!!!
NO THE REAL VICTIMS are the countless women like Ms. Recy Taylor, Oprah referenced in her speech, who was abducted walking down the street on September 3, 1944 and raped by six white men who as much as admitted their crime and still were never charged. Countless women of color particularly black women who were slaves, domestics, poor and did not possess the means to protect themselves have suffered horrendous sexual assaults with little to no hope of justice. There are children around the world being sold into slavery and the sex trade. Justice alludes them, many forever. There will be no reckoning. The "MeToo" movement was started by a black woman to help others stand up and tell their stories, in the process hopefully taking back some control of their lives. She started the movement because she saw the need to help women of color who were sexually assaulted and everyone else was ignoring. Society in general does not concern itself with the well being and mistreatment of black women. It is why I rarely participate in any of the current movements aimed at women empowerment or equality. Until black women are a real part of the conversation and agenda, I have no interest in participating!!!
I am not saying that what happened to these actresses is okay, but when you perform a sex act in exchange for career advancement, it is not the same as being forcefully abducted and raped. You have the power and the option of saying "NO" and walking away. Those who said no and walked away to have their careers affected, are victims. Society is labeling what really amounts to bullshit as heroic. White society at large has a really insensitive habit of wanting to interject and include themselves in the suffering of people of color, comparing the hideous things that were done to black people to the inconveniences they might of endured because their privilege was ruffled. This movement was supposed to be about empowering women who (not just felt) but were actually powerless in the past to respond or speak out. The actresses who have hijacked this movement have had more than 20 years to speak out and tell their stories, so why now? Their careers are no longer at risk, so let's tell the world what we have endured and what it's been like. I suppose anyone is entitled to tell their story and make known the path they encountered on the way to success. I am appalled that they took a movement meant to empower and help powerless women regain their self respect and turned it into a weapon to fight the real cause that most of these women are fighting in Hollywood, which is GENDER EQUALITY PAY!!!! As far as I'm concerned that is what this is really about, because it is ALWAYS ABOUT MONEY!!!
If you don't think it's all about the money, look at how heads are rolling all over the place. When you practically immediately terminate the star of your show when an accusation is leveled without any proof required, it tells me several things. One of which is you've known all along there was a problem, you are now afraid the problem will taint your brand, you allowed the problem to go unchecked, now you're trying to get out front and avoid consequences and you're afraid your core audience will turn on you, so you are trying to distance yourself.
Within a few days of the Golden Globes, Mark Wahlberg came under attack because it came out he was paid substantially more than Michelle Williams for re-shoots for a film they made together. It was used as another example of women making less than men for the same work. Hey I'm all for equal pay for equal work. The thing that no one is addressing is that Mark was paid substantially more because he had a better agent who worked out the figures he was paid. He did not have a clause in his contract that required him to be available for re-shoots for any wage. Once it became clear re-shoots would be needed and he was asked to do them, his agent did what any agent should do and that was to negotiate payment for his time. Michelle either had a clause in her contract or agreed that if re-shoots were needed she would do them for scale. My understanding is that they are represented by the same agency, so why did the agency allow such differences for each of it's stars? Please understand something, I am not a Mark Wahlberg fan. I have my own feelings about him and his early career as a rapper. Meanwhile Mark is being attacked because it took him 5 days to announce he will donate the money. Mark didn't do anything wrong and if I were him, I wouldn't have donated anything. He had better representation and he was entitled to be paid for his time. Michelle was also entitled to be paid sufficiently for her time. Unfortunately, she settled for scale wages when she was worth a lot more than that. Is Hollywood and the public in general really blaming Mark for that!!!
I know it's tempting to minimize the brutality of one's past because no one wants to admit the capabilities needed to inflict such brutality on another human being. However if America and particularly White America is ever going to move past these issues, then the admission of guilt, acceptance of responsibility and the determination moving forward to never see it happen again, must be a movement that is unstoppable. Anything less will only result in what we have today, a society that pretends it's civilized and cultured but is really anything but. Moving forward must include everyone, not just the privileged and must also understand the sorrow and pain inflicted on those who are not white and privileged as much as it sympathizes with it's privileged!!!
Words are so important. They describe all in life. When people speak, they give us a glimpse of who they are, a look into their soul. We currently have a leader who can't speak the truth if even if he tried. His words are lies, they mean to inflict harm and poison the mind. His entire administration lies. We must diligently guard our hearts and minds to harmful words spoken to us as they will tear us down and burn out spirits if we let them.
Hateful and mean words are being used to beat others up with. So many seem to feel that it's okay to verbally assault their fellow man. We are warned that by our words we will be judged. Words give life and words destroy lives. In this era where we hide behind our computer screens and use false identities, the kid gloves have come off and folks are just saying what's in their hearts and have been on their minds. The delusion of entitlement had by some is just breathtaking. All men were created equal in the eyes of God. No man was created to serve another man. We were all created to serve God.
If you keep up with current events, then you know there is a #MeToo campaign underway where women are telling their stories of sexual assault by the men they have worked with or currently work with. I think that it's great that women are speaking out and standing up for themselves. My problem with this campaign is that it was hijacked by Hollywood stars who remained silent until their careers were well established. I'm sorry but you don't get to play shero when you remained silent when you could have been warning other women. These women chose to remain silent to cement their careers. Now they want to be looked upon as brave and heroic for finally speaking out. The women in this instance I respect are the ones who spoke out initially to the detriment of their careers. As far as I'm concerned they paid the price and sacrificed their careers to speak up. It didn't matter to them, the roles they lost, they spoke up. When you are not willing to sacrifice something important to you and tolerate loss, then you are not a trailblazer or hero. You're a silent participant. These women could have used their voices and spoke the words that would have warned others of the perils of the industry. WORDS MATTER!!!
NO THE REAL VICTIMS are the countless women like Ms. Recy Taylor, Oprah referenced in her speech, who was abducted walking down the street on September 3, 1944 and raped by six white men who as much as admitted their crime and still were never charged. Countless women of color particularly black women who were slaves, domestics, poor and did not possess the means to protect themselves have suffered horrendous sexual assaults with little to no hope of justice. There are children around the world being sold into slavery and the sex trade. Justice alludes them, many forever. There will be no reckoning. The "MeToo" movement was started by a black woman to help others stand up and tell their stories, in the process hopefully taking back some control of their lives. She started the movement because she saw the need to help women of color who were sexually assaulted and everyone else was ignoring. Society in general does not concern itself with the well being and mistreatment of black women. It is why I rarely participate in any of the current movements aimed at women empowerment or equality. Until black women are a real part of the conversation and agenda, I have no interest in participating!!!
I am not saying that what happened to these actresses is okay, but when you perform a sex act in exchange for career advancement, it is not the same as being forcefully abducted and raped. You have the power and the option of saying "NO" and walking away. Those who said no and walked away to have their careers affected, are victims. Society is labeling what really amounts to bullshit as heroic. White society at large has a really insensitive habit of wanting to interject and include themselves in the suffering of people of color, comparing the hideous things that were done to black people to the inconveniences they might of endured because their privilege was ruffled. This movement was supposed to be about empowering women who (not just felt) but were actually powerless in the past to respond or speak out. The actresses who have hijacked this movement have had more than 20 years to speak out and tell their stories, so why now? Their careers are no longer at risk, so let's tell the world what we have endured and what it's been like. I suppose anyone is entitled to tell their story and make known the path they encountered on the way to success. I am appalled that they took a movement meant to empower and help powerless women regain their self respect and turned it into a weapon to fight the real cause that most of these women are fighting in Hollywood, which is GENDER EQUALITY PAY!!!! As far as I'm concerned that is what this is really about, because it is ALWAYS ABOUT MONEY!!!
If you don't think it's all about the money, look at how heads are rolling all over the place. When you practically immediately terminate the star of your show when an accusation is leveled without any proof required, it tells me several things. One of which is you've known all along there was a problem, you are now afraid the problem will taint your brand, you allowed the problem to go unchecked, now you're trying to get out front and avoid consequences and you're afraid your core audience will turn on you, so you are trying to distance yourself.
Within a few days of the Golden Globes, Mark Wahlberg came under attack because it came out he was paid substantially more than Michelle Williams for re-shoots for a film they made together. It was used as another example of women making less than men for the same work. Hey I'm all for equal pay for equal work. The thing that no one is addressing is that Mark was paid substantially more because he had a better agent who worked out the figures he was paid. He did not have a clause in his contract that required him to be available for re-shoots for any wage. Once it became clear re-shoots would be needed and he was asked to do them, his agent did what any agent should do and that was to negotiate payment for his time. Michelle either had a clause in her contract or agreed that if re-shoots were needed she would do them for scale. My understanding is that they are represented by the same agency, so why did the agency allow such differences for each of it's stars? Please understand something, I am not a Mark Wahlberg fan. I have my own feelings about him and his early career as a rapper. Meanwhile Mark is being attacked because it took him 5 days to announce he will donate the money. Mark didn't do anything wrong and if I were him, I wouldn't have donated anything. He had better representation and he was entitled to be paid for his time. Michelle was also entitled to be paid sufficiently for her time. Unfortunately, she settled for scale wages when she was worth a lot more than that. Is Hollywood and the public in general really blaming Mark for that!!!
I know it's tempting to minimize the brutality of one's past because no one wants to admit the capabilities needed to inflict such brutality on another human being. However if America and particularly White America is ever going to move past these issues, then the admission of guilt, acceptance of responsibility and the determination moving forward to never see it happen again, must be a movement that is unstoppable. Anything less will only result in what we have today, a society that pretends it's civilized and cultured but is really anything but. Moving forward must include everyone, not just the privileged and must also understand the sorrow and pain inflicted on those who are not white and privileged as much as it sympathizes with it's privileged!!!
Saturday, August 5, 2017
CHILDREN OF VIOLENCE
Violence and mayhem are everywhere. It's a part of the American culture. Rightly or wrongly, we all are somewhat desensitized to it. It's the only explanation as to why we tolerate it in any form still. We send our children off to schools where they are bullied into committing suicide regularly. This isn't a rare phenomenon anymore. I will be the first to state that suicide is an extreme solution and I wish they were able to understand that their problem is ONLY TEMPORARY and that SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION!!! I am so sick of seeing the stories of children bullied to the point that they take their own lives. I'm sick of people blaming the victim, referring to them as weak and the inability to tolerate anything. The real problem here is parents raising children who have no regard for other human beings, humanity and life. Your first duty as a parent is to protect your child, but protecting one's child from the ails of society is almost impossible. So no matter what, your child is going to be exposed to some negative aspects of our culture. You can't avoid it. Somehow parents have to give their children the courage and ability to withstand whatever comes their way and I know that is not an easy thing to do. Children are being jumped in school, beaten and tortured beyond the point they can handle. It seems to me that most of these assaults take place in the gyms and bathrooms. Perhaps it's time to monitor these places and have an adult present at all times in each. I know that cutbacks make it likely not to happen, but this is where parents and people in the community need to step up and volunteer to monitor these areas and make sure that children aren't being assaulted in any form. I know we didn't have to do this when we were growing up, but times have changed.
Exploiting and abusing children unfortunately is not new in our society, but it has gotten so much worse. People seem to think that children exist for their convenience. Well they don't. Each child that is bought into this world deserves unconditional love from their parents, food,shelter and clothing. You certainly don't have to dress your child in designer duds, live in an extravagant home or eat buy only organic food to be a good parent. You just need to love them unconditionally, provide for them and discipline them when needed. Providing structure and a loving environment for your children is your job as a parent. That is how they grow their confidence and learn coping skills. Preparing your children to face the world daily without you there is just is much a part of your job as feeding them. For the parents out there doing their best, I applaud you. For the parents out there who know their children are bullies and don't try to alter their behavior, careful someday your child is going to mess with the wrong person AND get the lesson of a lifetime and that person might just be you!!!!
Exploiting and abusing children unfortunately is not new in our society, but it has gotten so much worse. People seem to think that children exist for their convenience. Well they don't. Each child that is bought into this world deserves unconditional love from their parents, food,shelter and clothing. You certainly don't have to dress your child in designer duds, live in an extravagant home or eat buy only organic food to be a good parent. You just need to love them unconditionally, provide for them and discipline them when needed. Providing structure and a loving environment for your children is your job as a parent. That is how they grow their confidence and learn coping skills. Preparing your children to face the world daily without you there is just is much a part of your job as feeding them. For the parents out there doing their best, I applaud you. For the parents out there who know their children are bullies and don't try to alter their behavior, careful someday your child is going to mess with the wrong person AND get the lesson of a lifetime and that person might just be you!!!!
How Do I See Thee
I am on social media a lot. I have personal as well as business pages and I have 2 blogs and at least one active website that I try to keep up with. I promise to do a better job of keeping all of these things current as I move forward. I must make the time to keep them current and give people the information they may be seeking because that is largely how most people get, research and learn their information today. So with that said, I think I'm pretty social media savvy and keep up with some of the trends and latest things being said.
One trend that I cannot stand and wish would slow down is the SELFIE TREND!!. You want to know why this trend is so disturbing to me. It's screams self indulgence!!! Really you have nothing better to do than take a few selfies an hour to update your posts. I'm going to say a few things here that will probably offend many, but it needs to be said.
One trend that I cannot stand and wish would slow down is the SELFIE TREND!!. You want to know why this trend is so disturbing to me. It's screams self indulgence!!! Really you have nothing better to do than take a few selfies an hour to update your posts. I'm going to say a few things here that will probably offend many, but it needs to be said.
- Many of you are just too damn old to be taking pictures of yourself everyday as if you've changed that much in a day to post to your social media accounts. You were born in an era without cell phones and cell phones that record and take pictures. The first cells to come out where so damn heavy and taking a picture wasn't a possibility. So why do you now feel the need to document every moment of your life? Some age better than others, but make no mistake we all age and it shows. Taking pictures of yourself doing the most mundane of things. Please give the rest of us a break. You hold up lines, impose on others, risk accidents recording yourselves in your cars while driving and a whole host of other things, just to see or hear yourself talk whatever FOOLISHNESS you feel the need to share with the rest of us. DROPPING PEARLS OF WISDOM, well DROPPING PEARLS OF BULLSHIT is more like it!!!!! Please STOP!!!!
- Most of you do not look as good as you think you do. Many of you are out of shape and it shows!!! Too many of you are unhealthy looking all the while posing with your food and drinks at some restaurant, party, cookout, dinner dates, etc. What we are really thinking is DAMN HE/SHE GOT FAT!!! You have this big smile on your face right before you devour a huge plate of food. Most of you are not eating salads either in these pictures. It's no wonder Americans are some of the fattest, unhealthiest people in the world. They are already messing with our food supply, do we really have to assist by making such horrible food choices? Then these same people will take a bathing suit shot at the beach and post it!!! I don't care what your friends and family tell you, you DO NOT LOOK GOOD!!! You look like you could wrestle a polar bear with your two hands. We as a society have become enablers because we have all decided we would rather support each other's rising weight gains, than call each other out on it. See if I say you look beautiful and give thumbs up to pictures of fat people, then I feel better about my own fat ass not doing anything. It gives us all the excuse we need to keep accepting that getting larger and larger is okay. WELL IT'S NOT OKAY!!!! We are all slowly killing ourselves, yet all the while telling ourselves, big is beautiful, bigger is better, so we don't have to take our fat lazy asses to the gym and exercise. I refuse to play into this bullshit anymore. I'm calling GAME OVER!!!
- Dressing for a body you no longer have is just sad and pitiful. No one wants to see an old-head dressed like a teenager or hip hop artist over the age of 40. You just look really silly. When I see a bunch of pictures on Facebook in a person's profile of people posing and making gestures in a certain way, I can tell they are immature because they are emulating the teenage and hip hop population. It's usually not a good look. I want people to be proud of who they are and how far they've come. I want people to recognize they've earned the battle scars that life has left them with. These scars are supposed to leave us wiser and smarter than we were before. I am proud of my age and how far I've come in life because I know it was no easy feat and I'll be damn if I leave it unclaimed to behave like a teenager who knows JACKSHIT about life. I can't behave like an empty headed silly little girl because I'm not one, nor do I want a man whose expression of himself reads or looks like some rapper from the hood.
- Sorry but many of you aren't as cute as you think you are either. Everybody is told they're beautiful and we all are. Just not always on the outside. I know this may seem mean, but it's not. Stop making videos about how we can look like you. We don't want to look like you!! Every person has the potential to play up what they have and again, some of us do a better job than others at this. This is why I write and not make to many videos. I don't assume the world wants to look at me. Many of you make all kinds of tutorials, some helpful, some not so much because you say you have a following and they want to know. Okay!! Just be sure !! You care while weaved up, wigged up, hair colored up and enough make up for 3 people. You aren't your natural self, but telling us all how to beautiful like you think you are. I cannot help but to notice these things as I am a very observant person. Honestly I think many of you are hiding under self esteem issues so you present this bravado personality that doesn't match what I see. You folks with low self esteem only fool other folks with low self esteem. The rest of us see right through you even when we indulge you.
Tuesday, July 11, 2017
Bakari Henderson
I don't know the circumstances of exactly what happened to this young man, but I know that I don't believe what we are being told. This is a story that so far makes absolutely no sense. As his friend said in an interview; Why were there 10 men against him, for what reason? Well I have a few questions of my own. Where were all his friends when he was getting the life beaten out of him? Hell where were strangers? Why didn't someone intervene as reports are indicating there were no defensive wounds? Who just stands there and lets someone beat on them? Why were his attackers so bent on beating the life out of this man? I don't care what the attorney says about his client not meaning to be fatal. You don't continuously beat a man in his head, especially with brass knuckles if true and expect that no damage will be done. You mean to inflict some damage at the very least and death at most. Why is the question that is not being addressed. The limited information coming out of Greece about this incident is suspect. Basically all they keep telling us and making sure to emphasis is, "It was the Serbs." Okay it was Serbian people and not Greek people who did this. Well Greece, that still doesn't let you off the hook. If Serbian people are a problem and are prone towards violence, what are you doing about it? If this violence is particularly an issue towards Americans and/or black people, don't you have an obligation to at the very least warn us? I get you don't want the attack associated with Greeks because they didn't perpetrate this crime, but this did happen under the territory of Greece. With an economy that is in ruins and tourism being one of the bright spots, I would think the Greek authorities would take whatever steps and action necessary to protect tourist. I have read many opinions on Baraki and the company he chose to keep. I will not comment on that here and leave that to others to dissect, other than to say if he thought surrounding himself with caucasian people would protect him from his blackness, then he found out in the harshest way possible that would not be the case. He was young, very young and obviously had not got the lesson yet, that you cannot escape your blackness. The only way to handle it, is to wear it proud and be secure in the knowledge of the greatness you come from. Anything else is just counterproductive to your ability to shine. Surrounding and surrendering yourself to the ideals that people wish you to be instead of who you are will always lead to an implosion of self. My thoughts and prayers are with this young man's family. However you see the situation, he DID NOT deserve to be beaten to death for whatever the stupid reason will turn out to be.
http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/friend-says-american-fatally-beaten-in-greece-was-selfless/
Another video floating around social media is very upsetting to me. It's a video showing a man in Amsterdam hurling a black woman down a flight of stairs in an attempt to get her out of the apartment she and her friend were sharing. Apparently the man felt they were overstaying their time and needed to get the next set of people in. He was renting via AIRBNB which I have a whole host of reasons why black people should just stick with hotels and hostels than deal with some of the racial issues this newfound trend has bought out. In a hotel or hostel environment, this would have not happened. It would have been handled very differently. For starters if working out keeping the room couldn't be done and they refused to leave, the police would have been called and escorted them out. They would not have likely been thrown down stairs and treated like rag dolls. I for one am tired of people thinking that its okay to disrespect black people, in particular black women and people need to understand that the majority of us are not going to react like Bakari Henderson and not defend ourselves and I'm not going to cry like a little girl if you put your hands on me. I'm going to defend myself and I will be coming hard for anyone who I feel is a danger to my safety and well being, so please understand that before you approach me. The soft and coons among us should not lull you into a false sense of security that we are scared cowards and won't fight back. IT IS NOT TRUE!!! Respect works both ways, you don't give it, you don't get it!!!!
https://www.facebook.com/blackexpat/videos/10154436701826853/
http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/friend-says-american-fatally-beaten-in-greece-was-selfless/
Another video floating around social media is very upsetting to me. It's a video showing a man in Amsterdam hurling a black woman down a flight of stairs in an attempt to get her out of the apartment she and her friend were sharing. Apparently the man felt they were overstaying their time and needed to get the next set of people in. He was renting via AIRBNB which I have a whole host of reasons why black people should just stick with hotels and hostels than deal with some of the racial issues this newfound trend has bought out. In a hotel or hostel environment, this would have not happened. It would have been handled very differently. For starters if working out keeping the room couldn't be done and they refused to leave, the police would have been called and escorted them out. They would not have likely been thrown down stairs and treated like rag dolls. I for one am tired of people thinking that its okay to disrespect black people, in particular black women and people need to understand that the majority of us are not going to react like Bakari Henderson and not defend ourselves and I'm not going to cry like a little girl if you put your hands on me. I'm going to defend myself and I will be coming hard for anyone who I feel is a danger to my safety and well being, so please understand that before you approach me. The soft and coons among us should not lull you into a false sense of security that we are scared cowards and won't fight back. IT IS NOT TRUE!!! Respect works both ways, you don't give it, you don't get it!!!!
https://www.facebook.com/blackexpat/videos/10154436701826853/
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